Sometimes I feel really bad for writing romance.
This is why…
I feel like ruining the new female generation for boys.
Since books have gotten a lot more popular today than let’s say 70 years ago, and social media is replacing quite a bit of real human interaction, it seems likely that avid readers get a screwed vision of reality.
If I got one dollar for each time one of my readers told me she wished she would find a guy like my fictional characters Ryan Hunter or James Hook for herself, I’d be a millionaire by now.
Girls who inhale one romance book after the other sort of get brain washed over time. They have an image of a perfect guy in their mind and of course wish to meet Mr. Perfect one day. The problem with this is: Mr. THIS Perfect doesn’t exist. It’s fiction. Something written by women who pack all their dreams, wishes and fantasies into words. That has nothing to do with the truth at all.
When I write a book, I think incredibly hard about each and every single line of dialogue. In the end it should be everything – hot, sexy, spicy, tricky, awesome and with lots and lots of romantic impact. I want to create goosebumps on your skin with it. But please understand that I spend hours, sometimes even days, to think on one such great line.
In reality, a boy has like 3 seconds to think before he speaks.
Whatever he says then can’t be as great or romantic as the lines in a romance book. They say the first best, like any girl would do too. How many times did you walk away from a conversation and 20 minutes later came up with an awesome retort to something the other person said? It would have been pure, sparkly diamonds in liquid form. But what you actually said at that moment was as unspectacular as clear water. No champagne spilling off your tongue. THAT is reality.
It’s all about expectations. Romance writers create expectations in their female readers that no real guy can meet. The sad thing is, those girls walk past thousands of good guys in search of Mr. Epic, and they don’t even know what they are missing out on.
No romance is perfect. No relationship is free of troubles and hard work. There’s a line between fiction and reality, but for those girls who spend their best years in their rooms to read romances instead of going out and finding it, these lines get blurred. They expect flawless boyfriends and cinematic relationships. No fights, no misunderstandings, no sorrow. But all that is part of a real relationship, too. As much as the butterflies in your stomach are when you get kissed for the first time.
At the end of the day, some of these girls want something that doesn’t exist, and maybe they even know it. But by making the decision to stay home and read more romance books instead of meeting the world, they miss out on a lovely boyfriend that could make them happier with simple things than the best romance book ever will.
I know this isn’t true for ALL romance readers, but for some. More than you would like to believe. I am actually expecting a lot more from my relationship than I should. So, if you’re not one of those people, I’m happy for you.
To all the other girls who rather spend their days in bookish worlds, dreaming of perfection, this is my sincere apology for misleading you.
Having said that, of course romance books are awesome and you should read them! At least one every day. 😉